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The More Things Change

1:35 AM

Today was Brandon's birthday party. I spent two hours
standing around in his apartment, slightly uncomfortable
from the atmosphere of strangers. The ywere watching some
kind of generic bruce willis cop movie (the kind that have
names like "Hot Heat") on TV. Most of them are from his workplace
as far as I know. Much older than him, married with kids or
even beyond that stage. One of the couples brought a baby.
To a 26th birthday party. If there are any babies at my 26th
Birthday (which is in a week), they are getting locked in a
room with the "Teletubbies" for six hours while I go out and
have fun. Babies may be a lot of things, but they are not
party people.

Also, it seemed like most of the people were actually Marina's
friends. At least, when I first got there. Much later, Brian and
Kris showed up, and the Baby- and old- people left, and then it
was just us band people watching the action movie channel and
amusing each other.

Later, I took Brian to Kirkland, where his girlfriend's parents'
house is, and then I had to stop back at Kris' girlfriends' house
to drop off his bag, which he had left in my car. For some reason
I wound up hanging out there for a little while, talking to Kris
about the weird situation of Brandon's life, and how we're not sure
how to discuss it with him, as it is both difficult to lead into
that topic in a conversation AND hard to get Brandon to talk about
stuff like that at any length.

Most of the things I worry about can be boiled down to: Brandon may
be tolerating a situation he doesn't like because he doesn't know
what a "healthy" relationship is like. This is projection, because
I am assuming that Brandon wants the same things out of a relationship
that I do. Perhaps he is doing great and wants no change at all. Maybe
his reluctance at marriage (which Marina is enthusiastically pursuing)
is just nervousness about such a big event. I don't know.

So I took all his andagi and went home.

There aren't any drugs at folk life this year! Just marijuana and
shrooms! -- Brian